Happy New Year Friends and Family!
The other day I was browsing my Facebook page and noticed an article about abortion. I think it was a debate regarding the term limits set on legally being able to terminate a pregnancy. Whether the top of the 2nd trimester or beyond.
As I read the article and a few of the 1000's of comments that followed after it...I wondered if this is what Roe vs Wade intended when they fought for a woman's right to chose? Further is it really a choice if the woman has not changed her mindset that lead to the behavior which created the unwanted pregnancy in the first place? If not then she really, in my opinion, has not bettered herself but committed to a way of living that does not profit her but instead enslaves her.
There is so much birth control that is available in the U.S. that it is hard to believe that anyone, (with the exception of rape in any form), could produce something so beautiful yet unwanted. Many of the young ladies in my daughter's generation are choosing to have their babies despite them being made out of wed-lock. I think it is commendable because with struggle comes success.
It is my hope as we throw around the word 'choice' as if the very word justifies our acts, that we responsibly consider the phases before that choice is considered. There was choice then too. I am speaking about before a young woman decided to engage in sexual activity with a young man that she had no intentions of having a baby for. I am speaking of the women who decide to have multiple abortions without changing their lifestyle so they could avoid such situations later. I am speaking of the women who have no self-worth and were only willing to go thru with the pregnancy as a means to end of catching the man.
Does the choice to terminate change their mode of operations? Does it help them to make better decisions? Does it help them to value themselves to the point of practicing abstinence? Does it encourage them to wait on their mate because they are both worth it? Does it reinforce the fact that our bodies are to be prized and wondered..not given away at the first hot flush?
Does it really take a woman 20 weeks to decide? One can feel the babies movement by then.
I would argue that no it does not. I would further suggest that if the same woman finds herself in the same situation over and over again..then 'choice' is not helping her because she has not been taught how to use it.
Teach your daughter how to love herself, how to forgive herself, how to move on from poor decisions and to make it a point not to continue on a path of self destruction. Remind her that with choice comes responsibility.
Lastly walk in front of her with a sense of self worth and compassion..she will need it to help anchor her.
-SJ
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